-Satyakam Ray

There are two types of people in a social circle or professional circuit. One type is the extrovert, who easily socializes with everyone and enjoys themselves in every situation. The second type is the introvert, who is generally shy and tends to keep to themselves. Most people are broadly categorized into these two types.

However, from the perspectives of sociologists and psychologists, one type of person is ignored mainly by stereotypes—the ambivert. Ambiverts are neither introverts nor extroverts but can exhibit either trait depending on the situation.

Where do we find them, and how do they behave?

• In an office setting, Ambiverts can be easily identified during team meetings or discussions, as they offer witty answers to problems in a few words. Extroverts often discuss issues at length and sometimes overthink them. Introverts tend to keep quiet about the whole situation and remain in their own zone.
• In Social circles, at weddings or other social events, a large crowd often helps extroverts express themselves fully. At the same time, introverts can be found in the corner of the room. On the other hand, ambiverts are often busy gossiping or discussing in a roundtable setting with a close group of friends.
• There is a saying that you will find out who your true friends are during difficult times. Extroverts find it challenging to decide whom to call. Ambiverts typically have a few close friends they can call to sort out issues. Though not many, ambiverts tend to be trustworthy and helpful.
• It’s widely believed that talking more and demonstrating business savvy are advisable to impress any investor or client. But sometimes, over-smartness hinders trust-building between the client and the presenter. Conversely, ambiverts find meaningful chat with laconic verbiage fascinating, which helps them impress others. An ambivert gets more visiting cards in a presentation than an extrovert—it’s a fact.

Humans are generally very social and tend to form groups to live happily. Like-minded individuals gather to create a community that thrives through mutual appreciation of literature, art, science, and religion. The level of understanding among extroverts, introverts, and ambiverts varies in these circumstances. Ambiverts are often perceived as lonely, moody individuals who only speak when they find the right people to talk to.

As an ambivert, I’d like to offer some pointers to extroverts and introverts on how to interact with us.

• Look for the mood before speaking or communicating. After the initial few lines of customary exchange, you can easily judge whether the person is in a good or bad mood. If the person is in a good mood, he won’t mind. But if the person is in a bad/kinky mood, and if you manage to insinuate yourself, get ready for the repercussions.
• Don’t expect too much from these guys; they can surprise you both ways. Good people tend to be magnanimous in their approach and express a wide range of emotions while remaining silent. The subtlety of identifying those traits requires considerable patience.
• Don’t over-engage them with unnecessary gossip or facts. Only talk about what’s necessary and be to the point.